And to all these qualities add love, which binds all things together in perfect unity. COLOSSIANS 3:14

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Updated: Feb 12, 2019

Hey peeps! Glad you're tuning in on this toss back Tuesday...I say toss back because I'm gonna toss this post all the way back to my childhood for a lil bit:

From my interactions, I've found that most people have lived in the same city, stayed in their same house, or gone to school with the same people for most or all of their lives. Nothing wrong with that; at times I used to wish my life reflected that sentence, but no. I was a constant new kid. 

I've always been pretty laid back and reserved, and I'd definitely say I was shy when I was younger, so being the new kid was tough. I wanted to fit in, and I began to look at what my peers were doing, how they were dressing, or anything in between to determine how I wanted to be. If acting like everyone else (to a certain extent) was my ticket to the close friends I wanted, I was down for the ride. I'm not saying I wanted to be anyone else. I just thought acting like what everyone considered "cool" was my way to fit in.

Let me just say, trying to be something you're not is hard work. It's too much work if you ask me, and it's not worth the all. It took me until this year really to fully wrap my head around the fact that God created each of us to "stay in our own lanes." Not as in stopping ourselves from being all up in everyone's business, but more like focusing on what God put each of us here to do instead of trying to compare our paths, our personalities, our bodies, our gifts, our anything with those of others. 

A little example: just imagine how you'd feel if you gave your best friend a gift you spent hours picking out for her birthday, and she absolutely hated it...not with an I-don't-like-this-at-all-but-I'll-smile-and-say-I-do type of "I hate it"...but openly to your face. She even tells you to exchange it for something she'd rather have. 

Seems brutally unrealistic, right? But we probably do this to God more often than we'd like to admit when we compare our lives to others' and wish we had what they had in exchange for what God carefully gifted us with (Romans12:6-8).

Maybe you've never fallen into the comparison trap on a large scale, but I know we've all had those little feelings when scrolling through social media or walking around our school campuses. We see what we don't have, and we want it. It's inevitable. But how we react to these feelings is in our control.

Soooo basically be happy with whatcha got--no matter how imperfect you think your life may be! God gives us everything we need to be happy, and He created us each with a UNIQUE purpose to do His will. As Romans 12:4 says: "We have many parts in the one body (Christ), and all these parts have different functions."

Therefore, trying to keep up with the Joneses or wish you had the figure of Vogue's latest covergirl won't be satisfying because we were never meant to be like anyone else. I'm still learning to be happy in my own lane (don't even think about trying to merge over here; stay in yours)! In our real lives and in our spiritual lives, distracted driving ain't cute. Focus on your own beautiful boulevard of existence. Focus on improving (not wishing you could exchange) YOU!

Be sure to check out the inspiration behind this post: a T. D. Jake's sermon I stumbled upon yesterday. Highly recommend giving it a watch because it's right on point.

BTW I have a really cool fashion post in store for you all; I didn't come to play games with this one (hint, hint), so stay on the lookout for it! Be sure to SUBSCRIBE below so you'll know when it's out.

sending love your way. 

stay amazing,


VERSE OF THE WEEK: “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as though you were working for the Lord and not for people. Remember that the Lord will give you as a reward what He has kept for His people. For Christ is the real Master you serve." COLOSSIANS 3:23-24 GNT